. Question: “Without blaming my ex – “ “What could I have done differently in my last relationship?” . I’m honestly not sure... It was not mutual – I was dumped after 30 years. I have played the scenarios over and over in the dark while staring towards the ceiling a million times... And I am likely to do it a million more before I stop. – . What I do know is that I have let the pain change me. . She was disgusted my weight gain I have gone from a 50”” inch waste and a walking stick to a 38”” and dancing for hours at clubs. . I look after myself better And push myself to do more both domestically at home and out and about in the world. . I have tried to be better than I was And I am constantly judging and criticising myself to push myself hard to be more. . But this is the thing that gets to me… … She has not changed at all. Not even a bit She accepts no blame for the divorce She acts entitled and twist facts to make herself out to be some sort of victim SHE HAS REFUSED TO LEARN ANYTHI...