. I just found out about the "soft no" (look it up yourself) . I find normal interaction subtlies challenging. It's one of the things that put me off socialising, at all. - So, thanks for the heads up, about "the soft no'" . Its a good thing to know. . All I would add to anyone out there is... ... If you can, please be clear with me about stuff. The constant second guessing is different and I almost always get it wrong. Not just romanticly but in general. . But on the romantic front. If you like me 'that way'  then tell me. And if you don't - and you feel ok to do so, then please use a polite and clear 'no ' rather than the 'soft no' . - So I don't get confused and humiliate myself or cause discomfort to others. . I do understand that all us men might be monsters. - and we can not initialy be trusted . So, I am trying my best to not be 'that guy'. The idea of being 'scary' or making a woman 'uncomfortable...