. I find the "School of Charm mentality" totally sickening!  - You will never find real love that way - Pretending to be someone else will just have you dating the wrong person and eventually end in a messy break-up! - Be yourself straight away and always! - It is far better to be with NO ONE than the WRONG ONE! .

! I dissent! Not speaking about anyone's situation but my own. Other people in other situations are their business. But... For Me personally. I am not giving some kind of golden justification ticket to my ex-wife who dumped me after 30 years of marriage. She can fuck right off with that shit. I will never voluntarily speak to her ever again. I will never forgive or forget the pain she has caused me. If she was lying injured in the street I'd walk away and not call any help for her and feel no guilt over my callousness. And anyone who knows me understands that my refusing to help anyone, (as I usually try and help everyone,) is as extreme a sentence as I can ever pass on to any person. And she is one of only two people in the entire world that I hold that policy to. The only other person is my violent wife-beating genetic father. So, That is how much I loathe her now... I loath her just as much as I hate my abusive blood father. That is how low she is to me now. Susan Catherine