the "soft no" and finding normal interaction subtlies challenging.

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I just found out about the "soft no"

(look it up yourself)
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I find normal interaction subtlies challenging.
It's one of the things that put me off socialising, at all.
- So, thanks for the heads up, about "the soft no'".

Its a good thing to know.

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All I would add to anyone out there is...
... If you can, please be clear with me about stuff.
The constant second guessing is different and I almost always get it wrong.
Not just romanticly but in general.
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But on the romantic front.
If you like me 'that way' then tell me.
And if you don't - and you feel ok to do so, then please use a polite and clear 'no' rather than the 'soft no'. - So I don't get confused and humiliate myself or cause discomfort to others.
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I do understand that all us men might be monsters. - and we can not initialy be trusted .
So, I am trying my best to not be 'that guy'.
The idea of being 'scary' or making a woman 'uncomfortable' horrifies me more than you can know.
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(I have created a personal set of rules for that very reason)
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But I am also a little limited in my efforts by my lack of ability to read everyday social ques.
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So my options become very limited.