. DO NOT BLAME THE FLOWERS! By Ross E F Lombardi . Don't blame the gentle morning light because you are blind. . Don't blame the bird song because you have lost your hearing. . Don't blame the rose just because you can no longer smell its scent. . Don't blame the honey or the salt just because you can no longer taste the flavours of life . Don’t blame the blood you shed For the pain of you are feeling from your bleeding wounds. . Don't blame the mirror because you are ugly . Don’t blame the library because you are stupid . Don’t blame the reactions of others For your underwhelming dull personality . Stop blaming the shit from your arse For how it smells When you choose the food, you ate. . Don’t blame the reactions of others When you spout hateful shit, That you knew would upset them. . Dear fellow men who also can't get laid.... . I can't get laid either... But ...being unfuckable is Not an excuse to be a misogynist prick ... Take the bad parts of life with...

. Dear men who can't get laid.... . I can't get laid either .. But ...being unfuckable is Not an excuse to be a mysogsnist prick ... Take the bad parts of life with courage and self discipline... Have some pride FFS.... Don't go around looking to blame everything else like some total weak minded wuss. . Don't blame the gentle morning light light because you are blind. . Don't blame the bird song because you have lost your hearing. . Don't blame the rose just because you can no longer smell it's scent. . Don't blame the mirror because you are ugly . Don't blame those you are sexuality attracted you for not wanting to fuck you . Have some bloody backbone, accept reality and don't be such a wimp. .

. You can not control the world  . And if you are the sort of person who wants to control, -  Then you the exact sort of person that should not control  anything. . Only those who do not want power Who sees the burden of it and never the privilege  Deserve to have it . But what you Can do is control yourself. . If enough people just followed these 4 simple rules  The rest would will sort itself out. . 1 Harm no one . 2 Help who you can. Defend who you can.  As much as you can. Even those who you hate and who hate you WITHOUT harming Anyone. (Don't use self righteous as a self license or excuse to harm anyone.) When it comes to violence, there is always an excuse - never a reason.  . 3 Your happiness and own life is Never That important. Ethics, self discipline, willpower, self control, What is right. These, selflessly in the service of the wider world without fear or favour are far more important, than You, your own safety, your own happiness, your lif...

. Question: “Without blaming my ex – “ “What could I have done differently in my last relationship?” . I’m honestly not sure... It was not mutual – I was dumped after 30 years. I have played the scenarios over and over in the dark while staring towards the ceiling a million times... And I am likely to do it a million more before I stop. – . What I do know is that I have let the pain change me. . She was disgusted my weight gain I have gone from a 50”” inch waste and a walking stick to a 38”” and dancing for hours at clubs. . I look after myself better And push myself to do more both domestically at home and out and about in the world. . I have tried to be better than I was And I am constantly judging and criticising myself to push myself hard to be more. . But this is the thing that gets to me… … She has not changed at all. Not even a bit She accepts no blame for the divorce She acts entitled and twist facts to make herself out to be some sort of victim SHE HAS REFUSED TO LEARN ANYTHI...

 I AM SAYING THAT.... The male lonelyness epidemic Is Our own fault! We men brought it upon ourselves! ....Because it IS our collective fault!! In 10,000 years of history... No church, political movement or fashion has ever succeeded in suppressing the natural human urge to enjoy fucking eachother.... Yet us men have managed to 'achieve' this very same stupidity... 'Achieved' what no organised body has ever managed before - Making what used to be fun for all - far too dangerous to be fun anymore... For anyone - Just by acting like petulant morons - in just a blink of an natural history eye. We Did This! We made bears a better choice! And now you want to act like victims about it??!! FFS!! Well the damage repair starts with You. Each of us men needs to look in a fucking mirror and ask some hard questions of ourselves. .

. I'm not scared of dying. . I'm not scared of failing. That's just easy 'old hat' now. . I'm not scared of growing old and dying alone, it sucks but I am coming to terms with that fate. . I'm not scared of going to hell. Because god is an evil unjust entity that can go and fuck himself. . I'm not scared of loneliness. Because thats how things should be. It's the natural order of things. . But one thing DOES scare me. . But what truly terrifies me, what scares me the most, that keeps me up at night is... ... What if no matter how hard I try? No matter how hard I am on myself? How strict? How ruthless I am to myself?... ...What if? I can never really become good person? .

. …A little wisdom for you. . The People You Push Away Those You Alienate Those who You Reject – FIRST – Before they can reject you… CAN NOT HURT YOU ANYMORE! . You pain is Not caused by Loneliness! It is caused by the weakness of emotionally needing others. BE STONGER THAN THAT! . No need = No pain . Loneliness is NOT a curse! Loneliness is a Shield! Do not resist Loneliness Do not fight Loneliness Absorb the Loneliness. - Meld into the Loneliness! - BE the Loneliness! Make it, not just, a part of You. Make Loneliness the real “You”! . MAKE “IT” - WHO “YOU” ARE! And never feel that pain again . .

I was at a bar, artistic event thing earlier this week. Talking to a pretty woman about 'stoof'. (The fact she was pretty IS Relevant: because unfortunately, being a weak human, I probably would not have been as affected by her advice if my attention was not as engaged. Being a feeble minded mere human sucks.) Anyway. I have heard allot of past advice about "my ex", or rather "my feelings about being dumped" that has been trite nonsense. "Forgive her" blah, blah style puke. . But This pretty total stranger, said something brand new. She said. "Maybe you still hate your ex," "Because it's a way of still keeping a part of her" - ouch! . For a brief second I was angry at this pretty stranger because she said something true. So, yes, -'OUCH!' . Then, to double down the universe made my taxi back to the hotel take extra long to turn up on a cold wet night, So I had to think about that insight. . This insight wasn't ab...

Inappropriate sexting of women IS wrong... But... ...But I reckon I can do it better... I'm so sick of the basic inappropriate sexting crap men sending women. How immature and gross they are. Even though I strongly disagree with the premise moraly. As a writer I feel so much more could be done. Id never send such a thing to some strange woman as a message BUT I might as an exercise,  See if I can write a genuinely good one. .. ...and then post it publicly. Just as a example of what a difference a bit of creativie skill  can make. Pretty much just to make all those other such "men" feel as stupid as they look.  Attempt 1 "I could reflect your sexuality in the silvered pool of my masculinity so intensely, That it will leave you feeling more in tune with the core of your own body than you ever thought possible." Ok  A bit too 'mills n boon' but it's a start. Attempt 2 "We could have a conversation without words. Using shared sighs that only our bod...

. ONLY Men who are terrible in bed want an inexperienced partner. . Men who are not just merely good in bed, that have mad skills, that only a fellow sex artistan would appreciate. Don't want to waste their time with anyone less. . So if a man wants a low body count partner? What does that tell you about him? . If I was getting open heart surgery. I would not want some first year, first ever biology 101 class attending student, up to elbows in there, not really knowing what they are doing Id want the exact opposite in terms of experience. Id want the most experienced senior heart surgeon available. With thousands of theater hours under their belt . And at my age, If trying to find love again? Of being saved emotionally? And trusting my figutive heart the same way in the hands of some woman I was dating. The exact same applies. . Short version I also care about body count and past partner experiance to. Just in a very, Very, VERY different way! .

. Susan Did I really ask too much ? . Just to 'be there'. It was not too much to ask! Was it? Sure read your book, or play with your phone or type on your keyboard, but to do it in the same room as me. To both take turns making tea and coffee for us both. Exchange affectionate looks, and warm smiles every so often. Hold my hand or stroke my shoulder as we pass. Still do your own thing. But to do it in the same room as me and acknowledge my presence as a nice and pleasant thing as we share that space. Make me know that you are happy to have me in your life. Would just doing this, really have been so hard? To Let me feel quietly wanted, accepted and loved. . I never wanted my ex to be a sex goddess I never expected her to look young forever, I didnt want much, Just for her to like spending time with me. . To stay in love with me. . Not make me feel I was an over-imposing house guest that had uncomfotavly overstayed my welcome for over a decade. It hurts that I wanted so little b...

Wrong or right NEVER BACK DOWN!  Choose to die instead! Take the beating  File a police report with photos  Refuse any medical treatment Hope never to wake up from your injuries So, your attackers life gets real shit really quickly Even if they are not prosicuted They will either destory themselves with over what has happend  OR even better  Find is much easier to harm and be even more brutal to the next victim I'd rather be a murder victim than an coward  "Suicide via Thug"

  DATEING 2020 Onwards. . I'm just gonna dare say it. Men suck Women suck Humanity sucks Humans suck. Modern dating, all-round for everyone sucks. . I used to think, "No one can want me." "I have so little." "Poor skint, no prospect, no future me." But... Looking at the absolute filth that is the lack of human enrichment, of the dating pool, for both men and women?! . I am Now glad I am ugly with no money. Because being used for your money and looks so calously is horrendous. . I understand that there should be some initial physical attraction. And while I do understand financial security matters. - But We aren't talking basic, stress to make the mortgage payments or rent stress on a relationship, causing a breakup here! . Nope.... We are talking, "Use," "Or be Used..." . Both men and women both seem to be negotiating a medieval contract or business merger from the outset. . There's no, "I want a partner that......

. … How many alpha males does it take to change a light bulb? . Does not matter. Because while those arseholes are still arguing about who should do it, like bratty children - A more sensible Beta male would have both changed that lightbulb, and checked the smoke detector while he was up there. . . Why did the alpha male cross the road? . Because his silly deluded mind told him the side he was on was somehow 'gay' , (Alpha males are all an extra silly level of homophobic, apprarently - the poor things..)   . . Why do alpha males use extra thick condoms? . - Because they are shit scared they might accidentally 'feel' something. . . An alpha male walks into a bar… . ... Then needs 16 stitches. - It was a crow bar. . . Why did the Alpha Male need another 24 medical stitches on his head ? . Because the toxic twat was a slow learner and needed a bit more teaching ... ...with Ms Crowbar as a Teaching assistant.  . . An alpha male, an Irishman and a Scotsman were stuck in an ...

Ok. I'm waching porn I do that So do lots of people! Including women who also watch it to! . But it has just occurred to me in a world that is cursed with 'Andrew Tate's' in it - That there is a certain porn myth that needs addressing. . If you have a errection. No matter how hard or massive or how long it's been since you last came.... A ) You DO NOT need it 'dealing with' B ) Yes, It CAN be left. She CAN leave you in "That State'', - It's just an erection not a bleeding out gunshot wound! C ) If you can't mastubate - Then it WILL eventually go down by itself. D ) Suck it up you wuss, It does not hurt that much! E ) No, you are not a helpless slave to your hard on. You can't use it as an excuse to cheat on you partner. THAT crap is highest smelling bullshit ever Just take it away from your 'seducer', just put it away, and go home! Have some discipline and pride! FFS! - - - Your errection is not her problem. . And for the ...

. People mistake me seeing myself as, "Disposable" "Expendable" "Worthless" As a self pitty party . Because they themselves, Really care far to much about Their own value. . But there is a power to being Disposable. You can say what you want to whom you want Even if it means they hurt you for it. With nothing to loose and no self value you loose fear of dying, fear of embarrassment, fear of almost all personal consequences. . If you hear a tune in a shopping center you want to dance to... Suddenly you now can! With no value, no longer needing to be accepted, normal or cool - now you can. . If someone starts firing a gun I can use myself as a human shield over someone else - because I no longer matter! . Pitty party? Ha! . I pity You for still being stuck burdened with "giving a shit" about the opinion of strangers. .

. A difference between men and women: . Women Can obviously Choose to be just as violent as any other human being on earth. . Women can choose, with conscious effort, to be violent. However being human is their default state. But men?! Men have to choose, with conscious effort, to be peaceful.. As being violent is their default state. We men are just litte constant packets of violence that have to defused all the time. Being inhuman monsters is our default state. . ...And this is why us men are inherently evil creatures. . I haven't got a solution. But no one will find a solution if no one acknowledges the reality of this problem.

. There is a huge difference between dating some women DESPITE Their age and dating some woman BECAUSE of Their age. . Being younger should be mark Red on the balance book. Not a credit! . By that reference IF I, as a 53 year old was to date an 18 year old... ...she'd have to have 3 PhDs and a Nobel peace prize, AND marvel comics style suerpowers to compensate for the off-putting level of the Ick', of her youth. . Then slowly scale down from there.... . Until... ... if she was my own age she'd only have to be kind and compassionate. . So, I am not saying I would say 'no' to a 20 year younger, in her 30's woman. But I am saying that it would have to an exceptional circumstance! . . Apparently, According to some 'men' a woman over 20 is no longer at her, (to use the more classical Latin Romana terms,) In her "Optimus" or "Prime" physical state. . Because she can no longer turn from a big bright red 'broom broom' truck... ...

. My cut 'n paste response to those that want me to 'stop posting my shit'. . Request denied, Actually let me rephrase. Request denied you dumb arse motherfucker. I live at Flat 7, 40 Newcombe Terrace, Redcar, TS10 1DB. UK - Come and stop me you pussy, IF you have the balls. - I'm willing to die if your willing to kill, butt munch. . . The nightmares I have about seeing male violence against female family members from a toddler to late teens have been extra potent the last few nights. I am scared to sleep. Scared to dream, and if I do sleep then I hope NOT to wake up. . - I am now a man stuck hating both their own gender - and hating god. I hate and want to harm other random men who even remotely remind me of my genetic dad. - "Alpha Male" = "Valid Target" I was not meant to be such a nut job, I was a gentle kind soul - and that was stolen from me by big macho blokes who laughed and joked and took pride in harming others. . This is not a l...

I suspect that in the very unlikely event I ever managed to get any 'z' level local Redcar town celebrity fame. That I'll marry the first kinda of ISH "in the right light" semi attractive psycho female stalker that becomes dangerously obsessed with me. . They will find her having sex with my rotting corpse, with a frozen expression of agony and fear on my dead face, surrounded all the stuff from her "Ross shrine". . And as they arrest her she will giggle insanly... "That's so, Typical classic Ross...." . Yeh know what?! That is Still sounds better to me than growing old alone!